Mom is very angry, but do not have method again, because be not done so, wen Wen can cry all the time be troubled by go down, mother fears her body is overcome. Mother still worries baby daughter such disposition, will go to school how to get along with classmate, teacher?
The father of Wen Wen, mom is an intellectual, should say, they are strict to the child's breeding, not coddle child. To bad mistake of the child, they also ever certainly passes, child coop little black room, and ignore her cry be troubled by. But Wen Wen follows other child to differ, this kind of penalty does not frighten her it seems that, she cries can perpetually, cry till voice dry, cry so that faint almost. If grandfather grandma is attendant, regular meeting appears personally interpose, they do not allow to let the child suffer such “ to subdue ” absolutely.
Now, family everything must let her 3 minutes, was opposite can boast, wrong cannot punish, otherwise ” of “ pigheaded disposition comes up, finally still must be adult concession. Mom says, this child, better when particularly good, be troubled by when rising, we take method of her a bit to also be done not have, simply too capricious! ”
The expert is commented
If I say the parent of Wen Wen is right child coddle, they can feel grievance certainly.
We change an angle to have observation. Can see from inside the example above, between Wen Wen and parent, the relation mode that had formed a kind to secure (in this kind of mode, wen Wen is in active position) from beginning to end, and the formation of mode of this kind of relation is not result of a day definitely.
Every time, it is Wen Wen raises a requirement (often unreasonable requirement) , the parent expresses to object at first, then Wen Wen is troubled by with crying coerce, final parent made concession, the requirement of Wen Wen got attentive parents can discover naturally also satisfaction —— , actually the contradiction between the child's every time and parent conflicts, it is to be in repeat this one process. This kind of behavior of Wen Wen obtains aggrandizement because of succeeding ceaselessly, the result of aggrandizement is to make the frequency that this kind of behavior appears taller.
Settlement way? Common saying says, jie Ling still needs to fasten bell person. Since the “ of Wen Wen is capricious,” behavior is the parent time and again the result of “ concessional ” , that should change “ concessional ” by the parent this one fortifier. To unreasonable requirement, to bad behavior, the parent's manner wants banner bright, and the principle that should hold to oneself, anything but can because of the child cry to be troubled by and be changed, meet otherwise all one's previous efforts wasted.
To the child, the biggest penalty nothing is more... than by parents desolate. Resolution should be gotten below parents only, the child cannot win ” of this abiding “ cold war. But premise is family person go up in understanding and in step wants on the action. The parents of Wen Wen most those who be afraid of is the child can cry “ faints past ” , actually this kind of circumstance happens truly rarely. The mom with respect to Lian Wenwen also discovers, wen Wen even if crying be troubled by the fiercest when, often still also watching the reaction of old people secretly. Alas, the child is so astute, they can be met use adult.
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