A lot of successful experience mix the make a comprehensive view the lesson of error, in the family educational field has 10 problems that deserve bring to sb's attention, 10 avoid of calling “ ”——
One avoid is unmindful. When the child is small, chasteness resembles a piece of white paper. Go up in this piece of white paper above all chromatic, it is their parents and family. “ impression ” has been hit, can draw newest the most beautiful drawing; Once besmear became dirty, it is very difficult to want to be made up for again.
2 avoid vie blindly. Hope children will have a bright future, look at female Cheng Feng, originally give no cause for more criticism. But, the desire cannot replace science. Do not see the child that fastens the home risked a needle in which respect, let oneself child draw a tiger with a cat as a model-copy forcedly, learn to play musical instrument today, will learn to sing tomorrow, will learn a picture the day after tomorrow, so tired that suffering can'ts bear character, final things go contrary to one's wishes.
3 avoid are wide severe excessive. Severe to the child should have “ case ” , wide should “ spends ” , both neither can be indulged unfavorable also and exacting. Want to value the child's human dignity, but cannot by move strength comes.
4 avoid attend to one thing and lose another. A person whether grow into useful timber, school work achievement is admittedly main, element of Dan Feizhi force also cannot be ignored. In teenage period, the education of good quality and habit, heavier than pure study knowledge and skill good is much. This, often be ignored.
5 avoid are spoffish. Wrong to the child's defect, want sober analysis, be good at teaching, guide correctly; Do not simple and crude, be engaged in harum-scarum; ; Also cannot give up eating for fear of choking-refrain from doing sth necessary for fear of a slight risk, wrong to making child limitation is overmuch. Go against likewise in that way solve a problem.
6 avoid words and deeds is differ. The child is right anybody, include father mother, it is “ hear its talk, those who watch its travel ” . Parental words and deeds is abhorrent, say one does, absolutely education does not go good child. Want to know, the force of example is boundless.
7 avoid take advantage of one's seniority. Brave man is not carried in those days brave. Say not always to the child, how we were like in the past why, you now how how. Father and mother is young also over- , babyish over- , rather board move face is empty and homiletic, be inferior to putting down frame and child equality to make friend.
8 avoid foot is not neat. To the child that go to school, domestic education should cooperate cheek by jowl with school education, and do not want make a fresh start, additional prescribe. Catch condominium together, get twice the result with half the effort; Each does things in his own way, disadvantages outweighting the advantages.
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